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You think you know someone. You think you've got the bestest friend you could ever hope to have. Then..*poof!* they?ve gone. Why? Well that would be because of Joined at the Hip Syndrome. Yup, your bessy mate gets herself a boyfriend. Now this in itself is brilliant, you should be happy for them of course. However, it's when they start to act like they are married then you should worry.
Suddenly they no longer have a social life...unless it involves Mr Husband. Girly nights in are gone...if he's not there, it's not worth it. Your once regular phone calls stop, and you can't remember the last time you saw each other. Any closeness you once had can be seen deteriorating before your eyes, and your powerless to stop it.
Ok, this has happened to me twice. I was best friends with a guy, he was like my soul mate or something, we were so similar. We had a lot of fun going out and stuff. He had a girlfriend...she was really nice. I thought. At first it was ok, it always is. Then it got serious?.suddenly the phone calls stopped, the trips out with each other vanished. One day I found out what had happened...she had told him that I had being saying nasty things about him! It wasn't true of course, and I told him...but he still believed her. We made up on the phone a while later, but after that phone call...I never heard from him again. He didn't need me anymore, he had her. Last I heard they had made an agreement...never to go anywhere without each other! Imagine, not being able to go out with your mates, unless your other half allowed it! Ridiculous!
The send time was with my best girl friend. We were like sisters, always together, telling each other everything. We understood each other, said things at the same time, knew how the other felt. Then she started going out with this guy. I was sooo happy for her, I really was. For ages it was ok...then for one week she lived at his house. After that, she was gone. The symptoms of Joined at the Hip Syndrome came though, and now we barely talk. I once asked her out with all our friends for a big get-together. It was a few miles away, an hour by car. That was all. And do you know what she said...she said "oooh, it's not worth it." Not worth seeing all your close friends, the people you used to love? Oh, yes...of course. Your boyfriend isn't going. So neither are you. Mr Husband is the only person who matters right?
WRONG! No people...remember, most relationships don't last forever. Good friendships do! If you separate yourself from all your mates, when you and Mr hubby split up you will be ALONE. Get that? And that sucks. Even if you don't split up, you will wake up one day and look around,. You'll have noone but Mr Hubby. And surely, even a loved up to the eyeballs couple get fed up for seeing each other constantly.
Then you get people who say, "oh shut up, you're just a jealous cow". But it's not like that. Unless you have had the feeling of your partner in crime being ripped from your side. To watch as she stops caring about anything but him, no longer calling you. Leaving you alone with no one to tell your closest secrets to, no one to cheer you up when you are down. It hurts like hell, and it's hard to understand if you've never had it happen. Plus...what is there to be jealous about? From the outside the wannabe married couple just look sad...wasting their young spirits, no friends, never going out. Boring life for a teenager, don't you think?
Of course I'm not saying that *all* couples are like this, many aren't. But some are. I have a feeling lots of you are going to disagree strongly with this article. But I bet theres loads of you out there who understand too...so tell me your opinions, and experiences on the discussion board?
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